Buying a house or having a house built before marriage???
Some superstitious people say it's bad luck but I say, it is PRACTICALLY GOOD.
They say you and your partner might wake up one day and realize you're not meant for each other and decide to go on separate ways. What will happen to the house? Nothing. The house goes to the one who bought it. If both of you invested for it, then sell it. It's really up to you what to do with it. If you didn't give a dime to buy your dream house or a cent to have it built, then don't pine for it. Technically, it isn't yours.
But hello?! Why give in to superstitious beliefs when both of you know each other's worth? I mean, seriously?! You dreamed of having a nice cozy home together and when the house is finally finished you'll break up? Unless she's the bitchiest bitch of all bitches and he's the hardest person to deal with, lazy or a cheating bastard, then there's no need to stay in a hellish relationship.
If you know your differences and downsides but still manage to accept everything and deal with it like a pro, your relationship will definitely survive unless fate gets in the way. I'm not a superstitious person. It is fate that makes me wonder sometimes. Oh well, if he or she is not meant to be yours, then he or she won't be yours.
Which should come first: House or Marriage? Either??? Lol πππ
I know some people who got married first but still having difficulties looking for their own house or still living with their parents. Some of them already have babies. Although it won't be a problem for me if I got no choice but to live with my parents or my future in-laws, however, I don't want to be in that situation when C and I have options. I don't aim for a fancy house. I just want to have a place we can call our own. There are certain things between you and your partner that you won't want to share with your in-laws but it is unavoidable if you live under the same roof. The last thing you want is having your parents or in-laws get in the way.
Who gets there first.
If you are both consenting adults and you're absolutely sure that your partner is the one who will walk down the aisle to meet you at the altar someday or vice versa, then there's no problem with buying a house first. I mean, what's in a hurry? As far as I know, marriage IS NOT A RACE. Just because your childhood friends, neighbors, colleagues and acquaintances have gotten married doesn't mean that you have to do the same thing right then and there.
What kind of question is that?
Sometimes I really get peeved when someone asks, 'When is your wedding?". I find the question quite intrusive but I try to hold the reigns instead of answering sarcarstically. I ponder for awhile why would this person ask this kind of frigging question and just politely state the reason why. Mentally, I want to claw my eyes out for having the need to explain why not now, not this year, not next year, not in the next decade or not in the next century. I'd been asked the same question by the same person for the nth time and I still give her the same reason. We'll have our house first. But I really wanna say, FFFffff!!! You'll know when if you receive an invitation, Okay???!!! Hahaha I really wonder why other people bother to ask when I certainly don't mind nor care other people's business and I don't make it my business to ask someone I know who has a boyfriend/girlfriend regarding their wedding date or if they are planning to get married at all. These days, it's one of the most insensitive, nonchalant and intrusive questions a random person dares to ask.
Why?
I don't like asking anyone that kind of question because I don't like putting that person in an awkward situation. What if they are not in that stage, yet? What if you asked a person who is deeply in love with his/her partner but his/her partner has never talked about it with him/her? What if they are not planning on getting married after all? What if they have other plans before getting married? What if they haven't saved enough for the wedding, yet? And all the kinds of YETS??!! Even if C and I have talked about it a thousand times, it still irks me when someone asks questions like that. I don't know why.
There's nothing wrong about it but if the same person asks the same question again and again is just so irritating. If a couple has already set the date, why would you care, anyway? Unless you're the make-up artist, florist, photographer or the organizer that the couple has hired, then you absolutely have the right to know about the wedding date. If you're none of those and if you're not even a close friend, don't bother asking that question at all. Lol! I always tell C whenever someone pop the question and he would often ask me about my answer. I feel guilty at times because whenever I get mad and irritated because of the blasted question, I sometimes throw it at him. But he would remind me again and again about our plan then I'd realize, Oo nga ano?! Bakit ba ako nagpapaapekto sa mga tanong ng ibang tao?
There's nothing wrong about it but if the same person asks the same question again and again is just so irritating. If a couple has already set the date, why would you care, anyway? Unless you're the make-up artist, florist, photographer or the organizer that the couple has hired, then you absolutely have the right to know about the wedding date. If you're none of those and if you're not even a close friend, don't bother asking that question at all. Lol! I always tell C whenever someone pop the question and he would often ask me about my answer. I feel guilty at times because whenever I get mad and irritated because of the blasted question, I sometimes throw it at him. But he would remind me again and again about our plan then I'd realize, Oo nga ano?! Bakit ba ako nagpapaapekto sa mga tanong ng ibang tao?
Why would you ask? If you were not there when they became boyfriend/girlfriend, if you didn't know the story of how they found each other, if you were not responsible nor the cupid who brought them together and if you're only asking just to feed your curiosity and have a topic to talk about with others, then bite your tongue and shut your mouth. It's none of your concern.
People astound me sometimes. I wonder if they are bored with their own lives that they would nose around. I wonder if they would give a free service if they know the wedding date. I wonder if they LOL inwardly if we couldn't give a specific date and assume that we haven't plan it yet. Maybe it makes them feel better to know someone isn't getting married yet. Maybe they secretly wish the couple would break up someday because they go by the meme, 'nothing is forever'?? LOL. Little digs! πππ
To anyone
If someone asked you and put you in an awkward situation, think of these: You don't really need to explain but if someone asks you the same question and you find it a bit intrusive, ask them the same question if the one asking is unmarried like you. You can state the reason why, tell them you don't have plans of getting married at all and that you're contented with what you have now or ask them if they are going to contribute something on your wedding that's why they are asking. πππ
Anyway, I tackled about it because people get affected by someone's query sometimes. There are other couples out there who planned of purchasing a house first before tying the knot. When people around you suddenly pop the question, you sometimes ask the question to yourself, "Kailan nga ba"? Then there's the thought, "Sometimes the best things in life are the unplanned." But it says "SOMETIMES not MOST OF THE TIME." It doesn't hurt to follow your plan. Then there's this superstition. I know it doesn't hurt to believe to any of these superstitious things either, but we are not just into it. I asked C about it but I guess he doesn't believe either.
Again, for us, it is practically good to have a house first. It is just more preferable going home to your own house after the wedding.
